If you’re the squeamish type, or run into the idea of too much information, skip the next paragraph.
Something we don’t talk about a bunch, or don’t remember to keep top of mind, as a wheelchair user, a male wheelchair user, is to mind your balls. I tore my scrotum the other day transferring. Simply moving from chair to bed or back or onto the commode, not sure – didn’t feel it, but I did see the blood on my chair when I hopped on the shower chair. Clean up ensued and then I could’ve gone my entire life without seeing the inside of my sack. The tear was about an inch so don’t imagine a loose sail flapping in the trade winds but I still required a trip to the hospital to discuss and acquire care for my fragile satchel, somewhere close between my scrotum and taint. Seven stitches later I’m taking a week off from swimming (no soaking) and HAL PT (no harnesses pulling on my groin).
Have I mentioned it’s important to give yourself grace? And laugh.
Always laugh.
I once had a nurse tell me very near the beginning of this section of my journey (still in the hospital) that I was the type he’d want to go to battle with. How’s that? I thought.
His good friend was a Navy Seal. The people who graduated the program and tended to survive the ensuing difficulties weren’t the most physically gifted. Those who thrived were able to literally laugh in the face of adversity. Able to keep a good attitude when it doesn’t go your way because oftentimes it won’t.
We can’t choose our circumstances, but we can choose our attitude. We also can’t choose our psychobiology. If you can’t pick up – get help. And meds.
I don’t mean ignore the sad, bad stuff. Feel it, acknowledge it and keep moving.
Resilience will improve your life. Resilience is also a skill. Some of us come to it easier than others. However, some of us have had to practice the bounce-back more than others.
This isn’t a competition. Travel your journey and remember your hard time and mine are hard for both of us.
Be mindful of your thoughts. Those thoughts are your reality. Choose to move in positivity.
Or don’t.
But don’t bitch to me about it.
I sold a rash of books last week. Quite a welcome occurrence.
California Hustle leads the pack, as in the past.
I’m still pushing the stories forward in various ways. I also had a few good ideas that could make great books, hooky and heartfelt. It’s not necessarily finding ideas – it’s finding the right ideas.
I was reading a book two nights ago and the chapter was reminiscent of one of my own. Like really close in some ways of thinking and detail.
What I’m saying is: those ideas are in the universe all the time. The important thing is to use one that best fits your ability to tell more-than-well but extraordinarily.
Here are a few books that are churning through my imagination. One for each series if you are familiar and may be able to guess.
Be well ~ jefe
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